10 Things About Divorce To Know Before Getting Married
Currently, The New York Times suggests that about one-third of current marriages will end in divorce. What makes a divorce more likely? What will happen to our kids if we do split up? What will happen to my health? Keep in mind that no one can predict with 100% accuracy what will happen to you.
1. Couples who marry in their late 20s may be less likely to divorce
Waiting longer to wed doesn’t necessarily predict a stronger marriage according to Research led by Nicholas Wolfinger. Late 20s to early 30s is the sweet spot.
2. Couples may be most likely to divorce in March and August
2016 research presented at the American Sociological Association found that March and August bring spikes in divorce filings.
The research suggests that March and August follow holiday or vacation periods. The vacations can seems like a chance to renew a relationship, only to find that the same problems exist once they’re over.
3. Married people who watch porn may be more likely to divorce
A recent study, which was presented at the American Sociological Association, found that married people who start watching pornography are about twice as likely to get divorced as those who don’t. It’s possible that taking up a porn habit may signal that something else is going wrong in your relationship.
4. Husbands who don’t work full-time may be more likely to get divorced
A recent Harvard study couples suggests that it’s not a couple’s finances that affect their chances of divorce, but rather the division of labor. Interestingly, a wife’s employment status doesn’t have much of an impact.
5. Women who have more sexual partners before getting married aren’t always more likely to get divorced
Among heterosexual couples who married in the 2000s, women who had between three and nine sexual partners were in fact less likely to divorce than women who’d had two partners (a.k.a their husband and one other person). If you’re going to have comparisons to your future husband, it’s best to have more than one.”
6. THE CLOSER A COUPLE IS IN AGE, THE LESS LIKELY THEY ARE TO GET DIVORCED
This, of course, makes sense because you’re likely to share a variety of opinions and interests when a similar age. You’ll also have similar life experiences. One study found that the odds of divorce among heterosexual couples increase with the age gap between the spouses. A one-year discrepancy in a couple’s ages makes them 3 percent more likely to divorce, a 5-year difference makes them 18 percent more likely to split up. And a 10-year difference makes them 39 percent more likely.
7. More lavish weddings may predict less successful marriages
Spending less than $1,000 presents half the risk of divorce than spending between $5,000 and $10,000. Meanwhile, spending $20,000 or more is associated with 1.6 times the risk of divorce. Interestingly, weddings with 200 or more invitees are 92% less likely to divorce than couples who don’t invite anyone.
8. Divorce may contribute to literal heartbreak in women
Recent research suggests that women who get divorced are more likely to suffer a heart attack than women who stay married. For men, however, the chances of suffering a heart attack only went up if they divorced two or more times.
9. Divorce itself might not have a negative impact on kids
Nope, it’s the conflict between parents that takes a toll on their children.
In fact, in one recent study, children whose parents fought a lot and then divorced were less likely to get divorced as adults than children whose parents fought a lot and didn’t get divorced. The researchers say that’s possibly because the divorce put a kind of end to the ongoing family conflict.
10. Couples who display ‘contempt’ for each other are more likely to split up
It’s not simply getting into a fight; it’s how you respond to your partner afterward: Do you try to see things from their perspective or just assume they’re an idiot? If it’s the latter, try replacing the behavior with a more positive, patient reaction. It could save your marriage.